Where Fears Come From Let’s start with the main positive point: with a child, and even more than one, new harmonious relationships and a happy marriage are quite possible! Successful examples of many women who turn to psychotherapists and sexologists confirm this: women get married with two, three, or more children. It all depends on the woman herself — her desire and state of mind. What influences her state? First and foremost, fear — the fear of being alone, unwanted, and unhappy. This fear arises from the deep foundations of the female nature, which is inherently aimed at creation, maintaining relationships, and preserving what exists. When a family breaks apart and a partner leaves, this phenomenon becomes unnatural and negatively affects the psyche. How Toxic Feelings Harm The main thing a woman should do in such circumstances is to become self-sufficient, believe in herself, and not label herself as “not in a relationship = unhappy.” Everyone faces difficulties, and they can be overcome. Next, it is necessary to track your relationship with your child, specifically — to stop feeling sorry that the child is without a father. Otherwise, you might instill in the child the feeling that something is wrong with them because they don’t have a dad. It is important to communicate that everything happening (for example, divorce and division of property) is an adult matter, and they are not to blame. Finally, allow yourself the right to love and happiness. Do not renounce a full life and do not fall into the belief that someone else (that is, your) child will never be truly loved. Instead, sincerely believe in the idea that you and your child deserve harmonious relationships, a new family, and a happy life. Finding Support in Yourself The world is a reflection of ourselves. Therefore, it is important to experience love in order to notice it around us and receive it from outside. At the same time, love is not identical to selfishness. Self-love is complete acceptance of oneself and gratitude for everything, even for mistakes. The secret is simple: if a woman values herself, she appears equally valuable and important in the eyes of a man. Do you truly love yourself? It’s easy to check. Just give yourself honest answers to the following questions: 1. Without thinking, list your 5 best character traits. 2. Are you able to accept compliments? 3. Are you afraid of suddenly appearing not smart enough, not beautiful enough, not “perfect” enough in the eyes of others? 4. Do you immediately agree to do things you don’t want to do? 5. What words do you use to address yourself when faced with a difficult task or challenge? 6. Are you capable of self-irony? If you answer these questions quickly, without reflection, it usually becomes clear what your self-esteem is at the moment. And if you didn’t like your answers, we suggest several practices to improve it. Simple Ways to Quickly Boost Self-Esteem Stop comparing yourself to others. Instead, recognize your own uniqueness and enjoy the luxury of being yourself. In fact, that is quite enough to be worthy of love and happiness. Surround yourself with people you like and who motivate you. If a person is toxic and poisons your life, rid yourself of such influence: life is too precious to waste it on someone else's whining. Find an activity that ignites your passion and generates new ideas. For example, you could design and order a dress for yourself at a tailor, visit an unusual exhibition, or go on a trip you have long dreamed of. Be sure to pamper yourself like your most beloved child. And take care of yourself as the most important value in your life. Thus, step by step, you will develop the skill of being yourself in harmony and the feeling of unconditional love. And when you are happy yourself, life always responds in kind.
