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Career The first thing to part with is a career. After maternity leave, not everyone can return to their previous job, and finding alternative sources of income during maternity leave can also be difficult. If there are children born close together or another baby arrives, a woman's professional value may diminish with each passing month. After two or three years, she may no longer be awaited at work. Of course, there are exceptions, such as the successful mother of many children Natalia Vodianova or the psychologist-blogger and mother of five Larisa Surkova. Oksana Samoylova has built an entire empire on Instagram (an extremist organization banned in Russia), and having four children did not hinder her. But opportunities vary for everyone, and most mothers have to say goodbye to their careers. Personal Space Personal space becomes inaccessible. For example, Natalia Vodianova shared that she breastfed for a total of 15 years. In such moments, personal time and space become a luxury. Taking a shower, sitting in silence, or getting enough sleep becomes a dream. A mother is never alone for a second, and when children are breastfeeding, she is physically tied to home. It may seem that personal space is insignificant, but when there is not a minute for oneself, it begins to weigh heavily. Previous Health Some claim that childbirth is rejuvenating and energizing, but doctors view this critically. “Carrying a child is a serious burden on a woman's body, so it cannot provide any rejuvenating or health benefits,” says obstetrician-gynecologist Tatyana Trubina. Figure With each new child, a woman's body changes. Stretch marks appear, breasts sag, extra pounds do not disappear, and scars may remain after a cesarean section. Of course, this can be managed: proper nutrition, exercise, and cosmetic procedures can help. But will there be time for this? Often, personal needs take a back seat. Although there are exceptions: some mothers look great even after their fifth child. But opportunities vary for everyone. Romance Psychologists say that one should not forget about their husband, but often that is exactly what happens. With the care of children, spouses have no time for romance. Just getting to bed and sleeping at least once a month would be a victory. “There were too many little people in our house. In all that care, we just lost each other,” shares Kim, a mother of eight children. “Too many tears and stress. Hugs become awkward when so many eyes are watching you.” Kim divorced her husband after 12 years of marriage, and unfortunately, there are many such examples. Travel A trip even with one child can become a real challenge. Even if you overcome all the difficulties on the way, it does not mean that the vacation will be for you. Yes, you made it to the destination, but you will not be the one to relax. In an unfamiliar environment, you need to watch the child ten times more carefully. Lying on the beach or going shopping is no longer about you. Upon returning home, you will dream of a vacation from such a holiday. Freedom from Others' Opinions We are all discussed, and mothers of many children receive more attention. They are often given unsolicited advice and asked tactless questions: “Are you religious or just don’t like to use protection?”; “Or is it all for the benefits?” Nowadays, a large family causes surprise, and parents of many children are often suspected not of love for their children, but of selfishness. But in the life of a mother of many children, there will always be a lot of love. Realizing oneself in motherhood is priceless.
